‘Think of everything’: why the mental load of women is not about to lighten up

Moreover, in some cases, parenting may for these reasons be experienced as a loneliness experiencewhich generates a strong feeling of incompleteness and exhaustion. Similarly, Having children can even end up being apprehended as a subjugation.

If the exhaustion is first of all personal, it also tests contemporary conjugality and its standards of sharing and equity. Moreover, This charge occupies the discussion of many couples. However, and appears clearly as one of the factors of disintegration of conjugality in the sociological interviews I have been able to produce. Thus. this young woman says: “We are a young couple, everything is fine it’s great it’s wonderful, the child arrives and there, very quickly the wind turns. And there. Hermione, we will say that she is six months old and I, I tell myself that it will not do it, the story lasts ‘think everything’: why mental load another year additional but it does not do so, clearly: it is useless, it suits me more, it does not help me, I feel alone and I say to myself: ‘even if it means feeling alone, as much to be for real!’“. (Clémence. a 14 -year -old child, separated)

If the best positioned couples on the social spectrum may use services allowing them tooutsource A certain number of household, servants, educational tasks, this is not hand -like with a decrease in this cognitive charge. Sometimes the effect can even be reversebecause it is a question of thinking about the conditions (which, how, where …) of this alleged outsourcing of everyday management! Outsourcing that often falls to other women.