In general, we spend more time with his colleagues than with his partner. When you move away from the metro-work-dodo routine, the couple has more room and everyone has more time to think and ruminate. Budget, children’s educations, rhythms of life, need for sleep or activity, relationships … there is no shortage of subjects and to this is added the stress that the holidays age with their unknown shares. For the psychotherapist, betting on the holidays to save her couple is a pile wish. “”Get rest to get back better, why not. But think that it will erase the whole debt, I don’t believe it for a second. “
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When a couple goes wrong, going on vacation will highlight the conflicts. But divorce is not inevitable. “”You shouldn’t leave at the airport because it went badly but trying to understand why it didn’t work. In the long term that can say a lot about the couple and why not save them “recommends Stéphanie Van Oost. Problems can exist in Belgium regardless of the holidays or, on the contrary, be contextual.
The best is to become aware of the state of the couple before leaving: what am I waiting for this moment? What do I want to put it? What are the risks and my fears? “”This briefing meeting can give the impression of removing poetry and spontaneity but it is a frame that brings comfort and safety within a couple who beats a little of the wing “specifies the psychotherapist. “”Ruptures are often linked to misunderstanding because we do not speak the same language. “
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Substituting the needs and desires of the other to spend a good holiday is not a good plan, on the contrary. “”It is not because we go to two that you always have to be together. You also have to be a few breaths, have moments to yourself and pleasure in meeting “Termine Stéphanie van Oost.
