The specialist says he makes partners accept compromises who for some amount to swallowing snakes.
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Couple lifeFour shock truths for a long -term walking relationship
Jeff Guenther, American couple therapist, provides advice on Tiktok. These arouse the debate.
What are the ingredients for a happy and lasting relationship? Evidence of daily love and good communication is not enough. This is Jeff Guenther’s point of view. The American couple therapist explains it in a video that arouses the debate on Tiktok.
Sexual intercourse is a conjugal duty
His first point is controversial. He claims that it is important to maintain regular sexual intercourse, even if the libido is at half mast or that we are short of time. “Any carnal moment is not necessarily passionate. It can be planned, imbued with clumsiness and sometimes, it is simply necessary to do it, because the last time is already going back a while, ”explains the therapist.
The absence of sex could also translate the disappearance of other rituals.
Pexels/Jonathan BorbaStability is fueled by habit
Being constantly looking for novelty and excitement can quickly ruin a relationship. “The first dose of dopamine of a relationship fades over time. There is nothing wrong with that, it’s just a biological phenomenon. “In long -standing relationships, it is not a question of preserving the butterflies in the belly, but of constantly feeding the caterpillar,” explains Jeff Guenther. In other words, a relationship must be maintained.
Accept the loss of his freedom
Any commitment is accompanied by a loss of freedom, that of being able to do only what you want. “Even in the most fulfilled relationship, you can sometimes feel cramped,” says Jeff Guenther. But there is nothing serious to that, according to him. The objective of a lasting relationship is not to never feel cramped, but to consciously make the choice to stay with a person and in a relationship.
According to a couple therapist, it is perfectly normal to feel as cramped in a romantic relationship.
Pexels/FauxelsStop hoping that the other is changing
The most controversial point of view of Jeff Guenther is that he is, according to him, completely normal in a long -standing relationship to secretly hope to see certain habits or character traits change in the other. But since it remains utopian, his advice is as follows: “Relations become easier once you stop hoping for a personality transplant”.
For a relationship to continue, you have to know how to accept the faults of the other, because it is rare for someone to change.
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